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“I just ate my willpower”

Ever seen that saying?  Like in a framed piece of “art”, on a t-shirt or a bumper sticker? Yeah, me too!  In fact my Grandmother use to have little piggie just like this one hanging in her kitchen when I was growing up.

I Just Ate My Willpower

Willpower Definition:

willpower [ˈwɪlˌpaʊə]


1. the ability to control oneself and determine one’s actions
2. firmness of will

I hate that word.  What I hate more is the power that that word is given when it comes to diet and exercise and the fact that we put so much stock in our (lack of) willpower and use it as an excuse to fail.


Not once in my weightloss journey have I credited my “willpower” for my success.  You want to know why?  Because I have none.  No seriously.  None.  If you put a cookie in front of me I’m going to eat it…even if I’m not hungry.   Why?  Because it tastes good.  Because it feels good.  Because I know that when I put that cookie in my mouth, my brain will release endorphins and other feel-good (scientific) chemicals into my body that will make me feel happy, even if for only a moment.  When that cookie is placed in front of me I might pause for a moment and think to myself, “I shouldn’t eat that.  I’ll be mad at myself if I do.  That cookie is going to make me fat.”  But you know what? Nine times out of ten  I’m going to eat it anyway.  This was proven two weeks ago and documented for all eternity right here!  That’s because according to the definition of “Willpower” I have none.  I have no ability to control my actions!


Or do I?


We all know the answer to that is yes.  Obviously.  We all have the ability to control our actions but for whatever reason we get so caught up in the bullshit of “willpower” that we forget which actions to control.


I talk a lot about setting myself up for success and NOT setting myself up for failure.  I preach about this on my I’mperfect Life Facebook page a lot.  It’s the whole reason I created My Rules For My Success.   If I don’t create boundaries for myself in the right environment with a reasonable routine…I will NOT be successful.  This is why I keep healthy foods in my home and avoid buying crap.  It’s also why I do crossfit.


If I allow unhealthy foods in my house I WILL eat them. If I don’t sign up for crossfit I will NOT exercise. Period.  This is the absolute truth and has been proven time and again.


I eat whatever I want but I don’t eat whatever I want WHENever I want.  THAT’S the difference between me now and me 140lbs ago.   For instance, I do not keep ice cream in my house.  If I did, I would eat it every day.  Instead my rule is that if I really want ice cream I have to get up off my butt, drive myself to the frozen yogurt place, go in, squirt the yogurt into a cup, add my toppings, pay the teenager behind the counter, drive home and THEN sit down and enjoy it.  Enjoy the ONE serving for which I worked so hard and not have the ability to go back for seconds…because that would be entirely TOO. MUCH. WORK!   This is also why I only ever cook enough for ONE serving of every meal I cook.  Seconds and thirds of something I love are far too easy to consume and unfortunately  my tendency to overeat doesn’t stop at ice cream.  I LOVE food.  Love it.  I love everything about it.  I love thinking about it, shopping for it, preparing it, cooking it, sharing it and eating it.  That will probably never change.  Neither will my ability to resist tempting-foods if they are available.


The same (only the opposite really) goes for exercise.  I don’t go to crossfit because I should go, I go because I want to go, just like how I want to eat that cookie!   If it didn’t feel good I wouldn’t do it.  Seriously.  Crossfit gives me the same rush (actually better) as cookies, THAT’S why I go.  Not because I am so dedicated or determined or because I have some bullshit willpower.  I go because it feels good.


My point is that my “willpower” is only as effective and the environment I create for myself and I truly believe the same holds true for you.  Depending on “willpower” in order to succeed is a sure fire way to set ourselves up for failure.  Sure, temptation is always going to exist but it doesn’t have to be in your face every second of every day.


So!  Don’t keep junk food where it’s accessible but don’t deprive yourself either and find an exercise or activity that you enjoy.  Fake it till you make it!

Andrea is the creator of I'mperfectLife.net, a site that started as a personal blog documenting her extreme weight loss journey, post gastric bypass surgery. Since her WLS (weight loss surgery) Andrea has learned many invaluable lessons about how to let go of perfection in order to live a truly healthy lifestyle. Although she is grateful for the surgery and realizes it was the right decision for her at the time, Andrea also recognizes that she never fully understood what a truly healthy lifestyle looked like and continued to fail at successfully losing weight because she was stuck on the "all or nothing" approach. Letting go of perfection has been her key to success; finding balance in REAL FOOD, REAL FITNESS and REAL LIFE. Andrea considers herself a badass whole foods cook, a kickass personal trainer and total hardass when it comes to letting go of perfection in order to live a her best life.
4 replies to this post
  1. You hit the nail directly on the head! I so agree with you. I try not to buy anything “bad” and bring it in to the house, because like you, if it is there, I will eat it eventually! Thanks for sharing and making me feel like I am not the only one who has this problem.

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